E98: Manifestation is CRAP!
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You're listening to the Loveish podcast and I'm your host, Dr. Sita hood,
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Vision architect and licensed therapist. Each week, I'm going to help you to develop the belief and strategy necessary to make an immediate impact on the world by deep diving into topics like mental wellness, faith, relationships, and you guessed it, love. I should mention before we happen to the show, this is not a substitute for a relationship with a licensed therapist. You ready? Let's get it
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Welcome back for another episode of the Loveish Podcast. I am your host, Dr. Sita hood, Vision architect and licensed therapist.
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How you doing?
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That was my best windy impression.
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How you doing today?
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what's in your mug? What's in my mug is toffee. So this is a Starbucks K cup and it is toffee flavored. I've really been on my toffee lately. what's in your mug? Comment down below? Let me know tag me on social media. I love to hear what you guys are drinking and potentially you know, Jakub put me on something new. Speaking of Have y'all tried that white chocolate macadamia nut coffee from Starbucks? If you have let me know what you think about it. All right. Let's get into it. Manifestation is crap. Okay. Okay, so I know I've been snatching edges lately, I've been coming out the box, I mean, science stuff. And the stuff that I'm saying is really how I feel right? But a lot of y'all are like, Oh, yes. Okay, come on. So let's talk about this. Because I don't even know like, folks, they, they might really have a problem with this one. And I'm good with that. I'm okay with that. But I'm going to explain this to you. Manifestation is literally crap. Okay? How many videos do we see or manifestation, how I manifested my car, how I manifested my million dollar home, etc. And honestly, it's annoying, it's annoying, because they are leaving out key factors. Most of the time, people that you see this, they they manifested this, they leave it out there, maybe their parents left them some money, they leave it out there, maybe they live at home, they leave and now that they did maybe a ton of work behind the scenes. And you can't just think yourself into a million dollars, right? Because if that was possible, all of us would have it Hello, we don't have it right and hoping dreaming wishing and I manifested this honestly speaks to a larger issue. It takes away the fact that people have stories, right? Their cultural stories, their socio economic status, that all of us don't have a golden goose to pull money from that all of us do not start on the same playing field. So to tell somebody, I manifested the life of my dreams in five years, and you can too. It's a bit of a stretch. Okay. And I know I talk a lot about how you can live the life that you can't stop dreaming about. But never when I talk about that, do I say that you are excluded from putting in the work and manifestation paints the picture as though you can just say a thing. And then that thing is gonna happen. I want you to notice that I said, you can't just think yourself into a million dollars. You can't just think yourself into a million dollars. Because belief is part of the work that is required. But it is not the only factor. And so that's my problem. Manifestation is crap causing reduced advance progress. Why? Because you stop doing the work after you write the stuff down, or you are doing some work. But it's not really game changing work to build on momentum, or you're planning and writing so much stuff down that you negate the work all together. I say advance progress because you might see baby progress from the baby work that you're doing but you're not going to fully immerse yourself. You're not going to see your vision, your dream your whatever catapult your relationships catapult into the level that you're looking for. Because you're not really putting in the work like that. And here's how I have seen manifestation cause reduced advanced progress, somebody being like, I just manifested it and voted on my board. And the universe brought it right to me. It's a lie, okay. It's a lie. They are deceiving you. If you have an opportunity to do something, it's more than likely that God empowered you to do the necessary work to put yourself in position to receive the thing. You just didn't know that that's why you was working nah, okay. Because sometimes we put ourselves in positions for things based on intuition that God gives us right? First and foremost manifestation is in the Bible. But when I hear manifestation in the Bible, I don't hear it the way that all of these YouTubers are talking about manifestation in the Bible is about seeing the presence of the Holy Spirit. It's about a manifestation of spiritual gifts. And it is about fulfillment of God's promise. So a manifestation of His promises. And I think that's the form that we tend to twist up and make it how we want to make it and so again, people have twisted manifestation to fit their agenda, or explain their quotation mark overnight success. And I think that for this, you have to be very clear how you define success, right? Because followers does not equal dollars. You honor me followers does not equal dollars. Okay. Some of these gurus that we're following that saying we manifested things are lying to you guys. Just because they got a bunch of followers don't mean nothing, examine their track record, go look back and see what clout they got behind their name, you have a better chance of CO creating your reality with God. But every promise comes with conditions. So when we're talking about manifesting the presence of God, or manifesting the promises of God, we are not talking about oh, yes, I manifest and I'm about to get this car. Yes. Credit Score jacked up in a mug bank account, twist it up, like a mug, living somewhere else and got a pile of them barely paying your bills, all the other stuff in between? Yes, even if you did get a car would that be actually God's will for your life, though? Because is that God's will that you are getting wrapped up tied up tangled up? Not in Jesus, but in debt? Is that as well for you? Maybe not at this time. So we have to use wisdom and discernment when we're saying things. And I'm not saying that you can't be in a situation where you are down, and then God blesses you with a car that can absolutely happen. But I also know that the Lord is not going to put you in more bondage. That's a choice that you make in yourself at this point. Are you trying to blame Jesus for that? Right? He's like, Yo,
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tell you to do that. Which I say leave me out of it.
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Ya know that? That clip of NeNe Leakes where she'd be like, Now why am I in it? See the Lord saying that? When y'all come and talk about manifestation without understanding that there are always conditions to God's promises, there's always work that He requires us to do to receive the blessing and the promises that He wants to give us another thing empty prayers equals easy snares. So manifestation in the sense that people use it or that I have seen it on YouTube has been traded off like a prayer and empty prayers with no powers equal easy snares. Y'all know what a scenario is? Let me break it down for you. A snare is a trap. So basically, you out here just saying like, yeah, you manifest these things, and you just sign up for anything because you want it to look good or look a certain way on paper. You're also opening yourself up to anything. How many times have people been in the wrong place at the wrong time based on following something or somebody that looks or sounds good. Don't get caught up in a trap. Empty prayers equal easy snares. If you pray cliche, prayers, you won't get cliche blessings, okay? That's how it works. And I don't know about you, but I want to talk to your standard. I want the highest package available for me, I don't want to get slighted on nothing. Okay, that's number one. I'm not trying to so i want all that God has for me in the timing that he has for me and even though I have free will, I'm not trying to go over his head to establish whatever it is that I feel like needs to be established for me when low key like girl you don't even know what you're doing. Calling yourself out here planning certain dynamics of your life and you jacking yourself up anything that is worth having takes work. There is no shortcut. You have to work to get what you want, and work to be where you need to be. Now I'm not saying we subscribe to hustle culture, because you know it here won't do that. We practice wellness as a lifestyle. We are actively engaged in our wellness every step of the way. But it doesn't negate the fact that there is going to be work that is actually required of you again, that goes along with those conditions to God's promises. I want you to try it in manifestation for this template right here. The best way to get what you want. You're not gonna like it, but Come, come come home. It's okay. You'll be here every week. We just Come on, let's talk. The best way to get what you want is to surrender your heart and your desires to God so that your priorities are in alignment with his number one, he gave you those desires, you don't have a passion and a fervor for the things that you have a passion for, just because randomly, it's how you were designed. It's how you were uniquely created. And it seems like you are going the long way around sometimes when you do things God's way. But in reality, he low key is plugging you and accelerating you and pushing you up in ways that you can't even imagine and putting you in position to receive the things that He has for you. So the second way, or the second part of this template is to do the work that he's calling you to do so that you are in position, God's anointing is for a specific place and a specific timing. So if I'm over here, still stuck over here, even though I know I'm like, Oh, I'm so uncomfortable over here. I don't think I'm supposed to be here. But I don't know what I'm gonna do about it. And you keep feeling a nudge to move over there and you're not being obedient, and you're not paying attention. And you're just letting yourself stay in this season. When you fill in that tug to go that way that might be disobedience. And if it's this obedience, then that means that the anointing for this place has probably dried up because God got it over there. You're missing blessings over here because you too scared to hurt somebody's feelings. No, so if we want to actually get the things that we want, surrender your heart, surrender your desires, the Bible says that God will give you the desires of your heart, but first, you gotta surrender it, and then he's going to walk you and hold you over to the blessings that He has for you. And we have to remember that he's got a bird's eye view of everything. So even when things feel like they don't make sense, even things that seem meaningless and powerless, can't put you in a powerful position and advance your progress. And part of me wants to be like, sorry, but I'm really not sorry. Because I know, people that are looking at manifestation and looking at people that seem like they have overnight success. And all it is, it's a lie. It's not true. And I don't have a cute answer for you. And I tell that to my therapy clients, I tell it to my visionary clients, I tell it to people that I have the pleasure of doing work with the answers that I have for you are not cute. But what I can tell you is that if you put the work in is that if you practice a lifestyle and wellness is that if you do what you need to do, I guarantee you will see results. But you got to be willing to do the work. And sometimes that work looks like internal work examining what is it in me that keeps getting triggered by this thing? What is it in me that has a particular response? What is it in me that keeps looking for quick fixes, instead of doing the work? What work Am I actually avoiding that if I heal this thing would catapult me and take me very far, maybe I'm a very personable person. But I also have a nasty attitude and a temper. And maybe that temper is costing me some really valuable relationships. So if I go and I dig into what's behind my temper, and I do the work of changing the way that I see how people talk to me, and understanding that not everybody is coming at me that would dramatically shift my interactions with people, which will likely put me in a different position to make more bold moves to get me to where I'm trying to go. So there's no cute answers. That's why manifestation is crap. Because it halts your progress. It causes you to have reduced advance progress. I know you're seeing all these YouTube videos out here. I know we got some folks on board that's like yeah manifested or even seen people in the Christian community saying they manifested this and then mixing in the universe will bring what you need, like. Y'all can play with the universe if you want to. But I served the God who made the universe. And that's why I'm willing to put all my eggs right there. Not a cute episode for you today, but one that I hope will advance your progress dramatically. It's time to talk about what I've been loving product recommendations, shout outs to family and friends and overall gratitude. Let's get into it. Welcome back to another one. I've been loving. I have been loving summertime fun with my family. I always enjoy the summer and spending more time with my kids. It's harder for me to work but I think that's a good thing because I sometimes can get in a creative zone and struggle we'd taken breaks, but I do the exact same thing that I'd be telling you. I'd be practicing wellness as a lifestyle. So I build breaks into my schedule, but I've been loving the simplicity of just spending time with my family and finding the right rhythm for work and play. How about you? What have you been loving this week? If you enjoyed today's episode, share the love share which a mama share with your auntie share with your best friend. Then head on over to Apple podcasts and leave us a five star review reviews help the podcast to grow. 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